Unplanned Pregnancy and His Perspective
Your girlfriend just said…
I think I may be pregnant?!?
“She’s just messing with me,” may be your first reaction. But then, your mind starts racing, and you have a million questions running through your head.
You may be questioning…
The first thing that is helpful is for your girlfriend to confirm the pregnancy. Expectations Women’s Center can help. We offer free and confidential pregnancy tests. Your girlfriend may call in and make an appointment or just walk into one of our center locations and take a pregnancy test. Our mentors will walk her (and you) through this process.
How do I support her?
The most important thing you can do to support her is be there for her and listen to her and how she is feeling. You probably will find that you both share similar feelings about the situation. You can also support her by being present and involved in sharing the news of the pregnancy with your families. Don’t keep it a secret because this may cause unneeded stress or anxiety for both of you. Talking about your options together, with parents, or others in your life will also help you both to feel like you are not alone on this journey. Your thoughts and feelings are important. Don’t be afraid to let her know how you are feeling, too. If you want to parent the child or look into adoption…tell her that.
Where can we go to get the facts?
Expectations Women’s Center is a safe and confidential place for both you and your girlfriend. Here, you can share your feelings and ask questions without fear of being judged. You may have questions about how to tell your families, about your options, and about what to expect. Our trained mentors can help you explore each option so that you can make a well-informed decision – one that you feel is best for you. Don’t be afraid to call us. You can call in for her, bring her in, and even join her during the mentoring session. You are even welcome to come on your own.
Do I have a say in the end result of the pregnancy?
Despite the fact that a woman can choose to have an abortion without the permission of the baby’s father, as the father of this child, you can still have a say in the outcome of the pregnancy. The support that you offer has the potential to have a positive, or negative, effect on the outcome of her pregnancy.
What if we disagree? Should I just bail?
You are just as much responsible for the pregnancy as she is. You may feel afraid about what this means for your future, too. This is an opportunity for you to show maturity and take responsibility for your choices. This is your chance to admit you may not know what will happen in the future, but to also feel empowered in your decision-making. Remember, your choices don’t just affect you, alone, and should not be made too quickly. Take the time to talk with one another and come to a decision together about what is best for all three of you.
Please call us at Expectations Women's Center. We are here to help you!
Lewisburg Center 570.523.6872 or Williamsport Center 570.321.8240
*Information gathered and adapted from other pregnancy center blogs